Written in collaboration with Tuck.com
Divorce is a huge upheaval for people of any age, whether they are the ones getting the divorce or kids in the family. Even when it's the best choice for everyone involved, it changes a lot of things in their lives. As you might imagine, this can mean some changes in how you are living and how you sleep.
Everyone does better with a routine in their life, even if it's a simple one in the mornings or the evenings. When someone gets a divorce, that routine is often disrupted and sometimes completely changed, which leads their lives to be disrupted even further.
When someone moves out, they are more likely to eat later in the evening and do less to take care of themselves simply because they aren't used to fending for themselves. This leads to both delayed and disrupted sleep in the short and long term.
If this is the case for you, try to keep as much of your life the same as you possibly can, or build a new routine that suits your new life.
When someone moves out of their home, it's inevitable that their bedroom and general space will change. This can cause issues because people are trying to save money and buy a mattress that is less expensive, but less comfortable in the long term. They might also need to purchase their own medical alert device or baby monitor if they have kids or relatives living with them that need them. It gets expensive. They will also the different sounds in their new space, or get used to sleeping alone.
If this is something that you struggle with, try adding a body pillow to your bed to simulate the experience of sleeping next to someone. You could also try bringing a white noise machine into your bedroom to help you block out the new sounds in your home.
Increased Stress & Anxiety
People going through divorces are much more likely to have issues with anxiety and depression than those who are happily married. That's because they have a lot more going on than they did when they were happy in their lives. Change leads to a lot of added stress in anyone's life, no matter how small the change. Divorce is a huge change in anyone's life.
Any time stress or anxiety is added to your plate, you are going to have a harder time sleeping. In fact, it's one of the most common reasons that people struggle to sleep around the world.
Try practicing mindfulness whenever you find yourself spiraling into a depressive state. You might also find yourself needing someone to talk to. Don't hesitate to find a professional who can help you come out of these dark places and give you tools to keep yourself as healthy as possible.
If you are going through a divorce and are really concerned about your own or your child's sleep habits, and you have tried everything you can think of, talk to your doctor to see if there's something else that you can do to help everyone get a good night's sleep.