If you're a newly separated or divorced parent, you're likely approaching this Thanksgiving and the holidays that lie ahead with more than the usual amount of anxiety and stress. It's understandable that you're not feeling particularly thankful this year. However, you want your children to be able to enjoy the day and remember it fondly in future years rather than look back on it as the horrible Thanksgiving after their parents broke up.
If you're going to be sharing custody of your children with a co-parent who has a history of alcohol abuse, it's wise to include provisions in your parenting plan regarding the use of alcohol and perhaps an alcohol monitoring system. Even if the parent in question doesn't agree to it, you make ask the court to order some type of monitoring.
Many divorcing parents devote a great deal of time negotiating – and sometimes battling over – custody and visitation arrangements. After they've worked out things like how many days a week each parent has the kids and where they'll spend various holidays, they sometimes don't stop to consider how the kids will get back and forth between homes. They figure they'll work that out later.
One of the first big event-related challenges that newly separated or divorced parents often face is a child's birthday party. If you're sharing custody of your child and live near each other, throwing one party rather than two and hosting it together is typically the best option for the child.
When parents divorce, they often find themselves in need of a nanny for the first time. If you and your spouse are sharing custody of your children, it's typically best to find a nanny who can work in both of your homes rather than have a different one for each home.
As you and your soon-to-be-ex work out your custody agreement and parenting plan, it's essential to agree that other adults in your life, both now and in the future, will respect them. That includes new partners as well as grandparents and other family members.
If a court has granted your co-parent sole custody of your child, that doesn't necessarily mean that you can't remain part of their lives. Unless a parent is denied custody because they could pose a threat to their child's well-being, courts often allow generous visitation rights. Most judges want to see a child maintain a relationship with both parents if it's in their best interests.
When children move between their parents' homes after separation or divorce, it's not uncommon for them to experience separation anxiety -- particularly if they spend most of their time at one parent's home. The idea of going to their other parent's house for the weekend may cause significant anxiety.
As you move toward divorce, you plan to seek shared custody of your children. However, your spouse has other ideas. They point out that you have a criminal record and plan to use that against you.
Maybe you resisted getting your child a cellphone or letting them go on Instagram and other social media sites. However, after you and your spouse split up, you wanted them to be able to talk, text and video chat with the parent they weren't with. Maybe you wanted them to be able to share their vacation adventures and other activities with the parent who was back at home.