If a court has granted your co-parent sole custody of your child, that doesn't necessarily mean that you can't remain part of their lives. Unless a parent is denied custody because they could pose a threat to their child's well-being, courts often allow generous visitation rights. Most judges want to see a child maintain a relationship with both parents if it's in their best interests.
When children move between their parents' homes after separation or divorce, it's not uncommon for them to experience separation anxiety -- particularly if they spend most of their time at one parent's home. The idea of going to their other parent's house for the weekend may cause significant anxiety.
As you move toward divorce, you plan to seek shared custody of your children. However, your spouse has other ideas. They point out that you have a criminal record and plan to use that against you.
Maybe you resisted getting your child a cellphone or letting them go on Instagram and other social media sites. However, after you and your spouse split up, you wanted them to be able to talk, text and video chat with the parent they weren't with. Maybe you wanted them to be able to share their vacation adventures and other activities with the parent who was back at home.
When children are experiencing anxiety over their parents' separation or divorce, they often have trouble sleeping. Maybe they have difficulty falling asleep, or perhaps they wake up repeatedly during the night.
If you and your spouse have young children, divorcing and sharing custody across two homes will have its challenges. However, with cooperation and communication, you can do it.
Custody agreements between divorced parents are more likely to provide equal parenting time than they did even several decades ago, when many divorced fathers were relegated to being "weekend dads." A multitude of studies have found that children do better when they spend approximately the same amount of time with each of their parents.
You and your former spouse likely spent a lot of time and energy developing your parenting plan when you divorced. Maybe you were able to work it out yourselves, with the help of your attorneys. Perhaps a judge had to step in. Either way, one of the key elements of the plan is how much parenting time each one of you gets and when.
Children can experience sleep problems for any number of reasons. Anxiety and changes in their routine are two of those. If their parents have separated and are divorcing or considering divorce, they're likely experiencing both of those things.
When parents are battling over how custody of a child will be shared, one or both of them may want their child to have a say in the matter -- especially if they think their child will "choose" them to be their primary caregiver. Some judges want to hear from kids who are old enough and mature enough to have their opinion heard when their parents can't reach an agreement.