There are seemingly hundreds of things that separated and divorced co-parents can fight about. Often, they convince themselves that these fights (whether they consist of a few terse texts or a full-blown argument) are about things that are essential to their children's well-being.
When you and your ex divorced, your child was still in grade school. Now they're grown, with a college degree and living their own life – until they ask for some help paying for their wedding. If you and your co-parent haven't had to deal with child support issues in a while, having this monetary issue put in your lap can cause some stress – and maybe open up old sources of conflict.
Many of our closest family ties these days are with people who aren't biologically related to us. It's common for marriage to bring not only a spouse but stepchildren, for example.
Many couples don't draw up a prenuptial agreement before they get married because they're going into the marriage on more-or-less equal financial footing. A lot can change as the marriage goes on. however. That's why couples sometimes believe it's a good idea to get a postnuptial agreement.
If you and your co-parent are planning to share physical custody of your children equally, you may be talking about a 50-50 split. However, 60-40 splits have become popular.
When you and your spouse divorced and worked out your child custody and support agreements, the day when your child would get their driver's license may have seemed too far down the road to think about. Now it's almost here, and you need to consider how you will handle this new level of responsibility and freedom.
Your ex-spouse has been late making their alimony and child support payments in recent months. When you've finally received payments, they often haven't been for the full amount. They tell you they've been having financial difficulties. However, it's been challenging for you and your children, too, because you depend on this money
You've been divorced for a while. You've met someone you've come to really care about, and you introduce them to your children. You start slowly with short outings or a pizza-and-movie night at home. However, it soon becomes clear that your kids don't like your new partner. Maybe your daughter ignores them, and your son is openly hostile.
Fortunately, mental health issues don't carry the stigma they once did. In general, it's much easier than it used to be for people to acknowledge that they have a problem and seek help. This can include therapy, medication or a combination of the two.
You may have heard friends and colleagues talk about how they dread the occasions when they have to be around their ex-spouse's family -- for example, at events involving your children. However, you are very close to one or more of your in-laws and want to maintain a relationship after your divorce.