The unfortunate reality of today’s world is that no matter how many people benefit from divorce – giving spouses the chance to escape loveless and sometimes abusive relationships – there is still a negative stigma tied to it. Those who think divorce has destroyed the traditional American family generally argue that it should be harder to obtain divorce.
However, one divorce blogger and many of her readers provided an arguably more creative and effective solution to slowing down the 50 percent divorce rate in the United States. Instead of making it harder for married couples to get a divorce, perhaps ensuring that couples are ready to get married before taking the plunge would achieve the same goal.
The blogger points out that statistics indicate that 30 percent of women who are about to get married admit that they believe they are making the wrong decision. That sort of mindset almost always dooms a marriage from the beginning and puts it on a short track to divorce.
The blogger, and a like-minded author, said that perhaps the positive social experiences that come with marriage leads men and women into matrimony when they shouldn’t. Fun things like the proposal, a wedding shower and even the honeymoon are fun events and disguise the fact that a marriage might not work out.
One author points out that a marriage is a legal contract. Just as men and women should do with all legal contracts, they should be thoroughly advised on what the legal requirements of such an agreement are.
Divorce, however inevitable it may be at times, can cause upheaval in one’s life. As this blogger suggests, spouses might save themselves a lot of stress and heartache by thinking about the prospect of divorce before they go through getting married.
Source: Huffington Post, “Should We Make Marriage Harder To Stop Divorce?” Vicki Larson, Feb. 24, 2013