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Tips for handling emotions in a divorce

On Behalf of | Jan 4, 2023 | Blog, Divorce

Divorce naturally comes with a multitude of emotions. You might never be entirely the same after the end of your marriage, but that does not have to be bad.

Dealing with both positive and negative emotions can be confusing. According to the CDC, hundreds of thousands of Americans get through the process yearly, meaning you can too. Consider the feelings described below and apply the advice to your situation.

Grief or despair

Grief is one of the most common feelings after divorce, especially if you did not choose to end the marriage. Luckily, grief or sadness tends to heal itself over time. Remember that the emotion is not permanent, but if several months pass, you may wish to hire a grief counselor.

Shock or disbelief

Shock is an understandable emotion during a divorce. It may come from the realization that you want to end the marriage or your spouse coming to you with that revelation. The best way to deal with shock is with healthy habits. Try to sleep regularly, exercise and avoid junk food. Give yourself some time before you make any significant decisions.

Relief or optimism

Positive emotions, ironically, might feel wrong during your divorce. For example, if you feel relief, excitement or optimism, you might also have conflicting feelings of guilt. If you can, work on forgiving yourself and your spouse, and do not agree to anything because you feel guilty. Try to get over your guilt before making any legal decisions.

Whether you feel sadness, shock or relief, dealing with your emotions is vital in moving on to the next chapter in your life. Find people you can rely on to help get you through the most challenging part, and remain optimistic for the future.