During and after divorce, co-parenting may be the most difficult thing that many people have to do. People who have been there shared some of the things they’ve learned to help their children stay happy and well-adjusted in their new lives.
Remember that your relationship with your ex is now completely about parenting your children. This may mean putting a good deal of the past behind you. It may help to see your ex not as your former spouse, but as your children’s other parent and your partner in raising your kids.
Be flexible with your children’s time with you. This will be especially important as your children get a little older. If they want to spend a particular holiday or a special event with the other parent, don’t let your feelings or your need to have your designated time get in the way. If you’re accepting and accommodating, it may very well benefit your relationship with them in the long run.
Make sure that your kids have what they need at both homes. Sometimes, one parent will forget to pack or return children’s clothes, either intentionally or unintentionally. You may not be able to control that, but you can make sure that even if it happens, your kids have what they need at your home.
If you and your ex have a hard time communicating civilly, there’s an app for that — more than one, actually. Apps such as cofamilies.com help parents communicate about schedules and much more without having to talk. There are also apps that help you keep track a record of expenses.
If you and your spouse still have unresolved issues regarding child custody and/or support, it may be necessary to take steps to modify or enforce your agreement. Your family law attorney can help you determine what the best course of action is for you and your children.
Source: Huffington Post, “6 Ways To Make Co-Parenting Less Stressful,” Brittany Wong, June 24, 2015